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Transcend Your Pain To Find Forgiveness

“Forgiveness is about empowering yourself, rather than empowering your past.” - Bishop T.D Jakes.

Everyone has the power to forgive, however, not everyone can find it in their hearts to forgive. Unforgiveness is a state of mental and emotional distress. It creates cold-heartedness, bitterness, and resentment. The longer you hold onto the worse your emotional storm becomes. On the other hand, forgiveness is accepting that something happened and that something was not okay.

Acknowledge the hurt don’t downplay it by minimizing and denying the wrong that was done. Forgiveness doesn’t mean condoning bad behavior in fact, one of the best forms of revenge is to forgive. No, it's not an easy thing to do and it may take some time primarily when the pain is caused by someone you trust and love. However, don’t allow so much time to pass to where the hurt turns into hate. You have to commit to letting go and letting God. You have to Transcend Your Pain To Find Forgiveness.

"It’s not an easy journey, to get to a place where you forgive people. But it is such a powerful place because it frees you.” - Tyler Perry

Being on this earth now for 48 years I have experienced my fair share of hurt and pain from those I loved (not saying that I don’t love them) and trusted the most. With tears in my eyes allow me a moment to be transparent. The biggest letdown I’ve experienced that caused me an enormous amount of hurt, came from my parents. Both are now deceased so I live with a lot of unanswered questions. The pain instilled happened early on so I walked around bitter and mean, with a significant burden of almost hate on my shoulders. Instead of talking about it or questioning why neither one of them took part in raising me,

I used my outlet to cause hurt to others. Because as the saying goes hurt people hurt people, and there is no pride taken in doing so at all. Honestly, I’m not sure when I decided to forgive my mother and father, but I did and my almost hate turned to empathy and understanding. I have the Creator to thank for that.

“I think the first step is to understand that forgiveness does not exonerate the perpetrator. Forgiveness liberates the victim. It’s a gift you give yourself.” - Bishop T.D Jakes

The process of forgiveness takes time as it is not an easy process, however, it is a necessary step to properly heal. Understand, that once you decide to forgive doesn’t mean that you’ve forgotten as that is not reality. Forgiveness will not take away the consequences the other person may face for their actions. Please don’t think that you’re weak because you’ve decided to forgive the wrongdoer.

Forgiveness is one of the most important, powerful, and impact things that you can do to free yourself from hurting another. As I mentioned before I used my outlet to hurt others and I pray for forgiveness. For those that hurt me, I forgive you. I am on a mission to wholeness. I’m Transcending My Pain To Find Forgiveness.



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